I have a lot of kids.
I know that I have a lot of kids.
Heck, even our
Christmas New Year's Card this year flat out said "we have a lot of kids" . Yes really.
But apparently I have crossed a certain line with eight.
I've had comments since number 5 rolled around about having a lot of kids. I found that slightly unusual due to the fact that I live in Utah where traditionally everyone has a lot of kids. Not as much as it used to be, but still, it's UTAH!
There are four kids in my family (I have two brothers and one sister), and it felt like we had an average, if not smallish family. When I was a kid it seemed like everyone else had six kids and we "only" had four.
Typically when people would ask how many kids I have-and I swear it comes up every time I leave the house no matter how many kids I have with me- I would get a reply of "You don't look old enough to have that many kids!" or "wow-that's a lot!" or "you really have your hands full!" or something along those lines. Every once in a while I'd get a snide or just flat our rude comment, but oh well, it happens. Thankfully the good outweigh the bad, so you just learn to ignore those ones.
But since I've had Sam, actually since I was pregnant, the questions and comments have changed a little bit.
Even when we had seven kids, we'd get the same responses. "Wow! Seven? Really? Seven?!"
(which makes me think of The Sounds of Music "Don't you like children?" "Yes, but SEVEN?!")
Now we've entered new territory.
It seems no one has 8 kids of their own unless they are a Duggar or Octomom.
In the past month it seems to have happened more than ever. The new response when I tell people I have 8?
"Is it a yours/mine/ours thing?"
"So....are some of them adopted?"
"Did you give birth to them all?" I've actually been asked that 5 times in the past month.
And the multiples question has started morphing from "do you have any multiples?" to "How many sets of multiples?"
Don't get me wrong, I really don't mind, and I'm not complaining, I just find it funny that for some reason adding an eighth child has really thrown people.
I can only imagine what it would be like outside of our little bubble here....we haven't been out of town for a while, but on our last trip to SoCal with seven kids, we certainly garnered some looks!
And it has me curious-do you get questions and comments about the number of kids you have or how close in age they are? Or like a friend of mine with two kids who got some very probing questions the other day, do you get interrogated by people wondering why you don't have more?
Still, I think my favorite part of the personal questions that get asked when this subject comes up is "you are done, aren't you?"
(NO, that's not an announcement! And yes, I know, I STILL need to change my header.)
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
I have a lot of kids.
Posted by Catey at 10:09 AM